Hello lovelies, I thought I would do a bit of a different post today, maybe this will help you, maybe it won't or maybe you could help me if your in a similar situation, then feel free to comment below with your suggestions, here's mine.
From the day I found out I was pregnant, I was very overwhelmed, scared and really didn't have a clue what I wanted to do, also what was going on through my mind was how could I possibly love another baby as much as I already do now? Would Oscar be my favourite? From hearing from other mums and friends who have more than one child this is nonsense and they say as soon as you give birth the love just comes all at once. After a lot of discussions with my partner and him reassuring me everything will be ok we decided to tell the family. I didn't think Oscar would understand at all when I told him Mummy was having a baby but I kept showing him my belly and trying to explain, he now points at my belly all the time and says baby, he kisses bump and cuddles it every night before he goes to bed and whilst we bathe together, he's the sweetest!
My suggestions to other mums who are expecting is to keep telling your child so they understand, show them books of babies then point to your tummy. Try telling your little one that he was once in there, get them excited too and explain to them about sharing toys, helping you etc. You could go and visit friends or family who have a new born and try explaining to your little one that you will also have one of those soon, do they have babies at the pre school your child attends to? I have been really lucky that my son does and heard he helps give them drinks, strokes their head and crawls around with them, is this making your heart melt as much as mine?
How about going shopping for the baby and asking your little one for his/her input, for example your looking at t-shirt's and say 'Will baby like this one, or this one?' the same with toys, blankets and things. Try not to stress too much, I really want my son out of nappies fully by the time baby comes mostly as he will be starting nursery soon but also to keep costs down but I am certainly not going to rush him into anything he is not ready for so nor should you. Oscar is doing so well in the day time with his potty and even takes it to the toilet and empties it! But once he has a pull up he just doesn't realise and won't tell me when he needs to go, even with me asking him a million times that day 'do you need to pee' aha. It all comes when they are ready and every child develops differently, so try not to worry about it.
Spend as much quality time with your little one whilst you have it, I am so worried Oscar is going to feel left out when the baby arrives and as you know it is very tiring when you only have a few weeks left in pregnancy all you want to do is relax, that is obviously no option you have with a two year old so do light exercise with them, baking, drawing, playing with their toys etc and just show them how much you love them. My mum has also been having fun 'sleepovers' with Oscar recently as she thinks this will be a good idea for help in the future if we need a break which I think is a fantastic idea, if you have close family or friends willing to help you, make sure you take up the offer, you can never have too much help and it's better to start early as it can be very overwhelming at short notice I imagine and Oscar never sleeps at anyone else house so this is great preparation.
If you would like any more posts similar to this with toddlers and babies let me know, it was nice to do something a little different on my blog and I want to do more parenting type posts on here and will be a lot of baby overload when baby is finally here! Again if you have any tips then please don't hesitate to pop them below, I look forward to them! x
